DNP Student Writes Op-Ed on Touch Starvation

"The consequences of touch starvation," an op-ed written by Therese Bernstein, DNP student, was released recently in the "Stamford Advocate" newspaper.  

Introduction

We just celebrated my mom’s 79th birthday. I was excited to celebrate her special day and wish her a happy birthday. I brought mom a cake, and, without thinking, I approached her with outstretched arms to give her a hug. Suddenly, I stopped. I pulled myself back and cried, sadly remembering that touching was not allowed.

Touch is an integral part of human interaction and an extremely powerful form of communication. The essence of a warm embrace, a kiss, a gentle touch or just holding hands is how we say “Hello,” “I love you,” “I’m sorry,” or “I care.” Touch is a basic sense that allows us to connect with our family and friends and often we do not realize the many ways we touch someone. Perhaps we have taken some of these simple common gestures for granted.

In the new world of COVID, we now wear masks, practice social distancing, and physical contact, such as a hug, a pat on the back, and even a high-five, is forbidden. COVID-19 has deprived us of the connection and physical comfort that a simple touch gives us at a time when we may need it the most. As a pediatric nurse practitioner, I appreciate how the lack of human touch during this unprecedented time has impacted the physical and mental well-being of people of all ages, especially children. Every day I see how the lack of touch is contributing to increased stress and anxiety among children. When I started asking children how many hugs they get a day, I was saddened to hear some say none. The consequences of touch starvation are real.